I thought the tone of this story was off, but I was open to the content. After reading it, I was certain the tone was obnoxious, but I knew what you were trying to explain — that you don’t like being used to bolster the esteem of women who otherwise assume their whiteness is the prize you should be “lucky” to get when white men have rejected them. The thing here is that writing is likely not your special gift and so it didn’t come across that way.

That said, I wasn’t going to comment and just move on. However, I decided to look at the comments and I observed who was most upset about your expression and it seems to me you poked the bear. The commenters are proving you right. I think your fat phobia and ageism are sickening, however, I noticed the trend.

“Hit dogs holler,” the saying goes. If this isn’t you, move on. But some of these responses reveal that somewhere deep in your mind you have bought into the indoctrinated spiel that all Black men want to ravage white women. I think there needs to be self-reflection on both ends- why the women responding are so upset and why the author thought this article was publishable without a clearer statement of purpose that really could turn into thoughtful conversation, rather than a self-grandizing piece.

Thankfully, I have no dog in this race!